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The other day on The Fly Guy Chronicles, there was a post dealing with 5 Lies All Women Tell. Naturally a lot of people had a lot to say about this. But in the comments (as they often do) a few other topics came up for discussion. One of which was this:

If I have a “guy’s night out” with the boys and we hit the strip club, when I get home, can I still nudge you in the back, wake you up, and talk to you about some things…

Now before you finish forming your opinion, let’s establish a few things that were also established during the discussion over at Fly Guy:

1. This is an every once in a while thing. I’m not talking about a dude who is hittin the club up weekly. Not even monthly. Truly an every now and then scenario

2. When I get home, I take a shower.

So let’s get into it - (Fellas, vote on what the girl should do…and when you do, consider how you’d feel if the shoe was on the other foot). And as always, feel free to elaborate in the comments:

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  1. You don’t have enough options in your pole. So, I’ll go with no. Although, I don’t think there is anything wrong with strip clubs in general, when you are part of a relationship it’s different. Now, truthfully, occasionally, like once or twice a year, if my man wanted to go to the strip club, I would accompany him. (I’ve never done it but I am open to it…and I hear that here in ATL, women treat the strip club like it’s the club….that is some sh*t I am not down with at all!).

    Frankly, I know many men have an issue with self control when it come to naked women. And I don’t want put my SO in a dilemna but allowing him to go to the strip club and have to struggle with his conscious.

    //no imageChocolate Chiq (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 9:01 am

  2. That posting is HILARIOUS!!!!!! LOL
    This is a touchy subject, but my boo WILL be gettin’ the goods when he comes home! Liquor “love” is the BEST!

    Yeah a chick is going to feel some sort of way about you going - she would be lying if she said she didn’t care. Just don’t act a fool when I go and come home expecting you to give me some!

    On those nights that he’s not going to a strip club, what makes you think he’s not or has not thought about a chick at a strip club - or some chick he got down with before you? ……….. oh and check what sites he’s going to, cuz he has a porn site - believe that!

    It’s all about trust, respect and communication………

    //no imageSILKIE TRICKZ (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 9:14 am

  3. CC — Holla at me. I can adjust the poll. What option would you like to see added? “Struggle with his conscious”? Where is the struggle — to get a lap dance or not to get a lap dance. I still haven’t hit an ATL strip club yet…but are they THAT bad??

    Silkie — I spent entirely too much of my work day in that Fly Guy posting. You’re right…that shit was HI LAR IOUS!! I knew YOU’D break me off after the strip club. Thanks Ma!! LOL

    Oh…and if it’s about TRUST, respect and communication…why are you all up in my website history??? lol…

    //no imagePreston Swagger (Who am I?) (author)
    25 September 2008 at 9:43 am

  4. I definitely have to agree with Silkie! LIQUOR LOVE IS THE BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sorry I got carried away! um, but yeah…i have no prob being nudged in the middle of the night for the goods. I also don’t mind my man going to the strip club every now and then. If you gotta be there every weekend then we got a problem. Obviously you’re getting something there you’re not getting at home. um, babe…we need to talk. really.

    //no imageloveliesandmusic (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 9:56 am

  5. Firsat let me say I have been through this before, most women don’t like their men going to Strip clubs or bachelor parties, I don’t do strip clubs to much, I don’t believe in given away my money with no kick back. I went to a bachelor party, got drunk and horny, no sex from the strippers, came home to give it to the women I was in Love with and she told me NO, I don’t feel like it, I begged and prayed, it would have taken two strokes and I would have been done, but she continued to refuse, so I was standing there with a hard penis, but when she went out two weeks earlier to see the male strippers, she came home drunk and horny and wanted it beat up, if I would have said no or I didn’t feel like it I would have been accused of cheating or something crazy.
    However I did take care of that hard penis and not through mastrebation, IF YOU DON’T HANDLE YOUR BUSINESS SOMEBODY ELSE WILL, I will leave it to that.

    CC, LOL, can anyone say insecurities

    //no imagemeseman (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 10:38 am

  6. I have not changed my mind since this post on Fly Guy. He still isn’t getting any.

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 10:38 am

  7. hehehe…Preston I am NOT touching this one…thanks for giving it a second home tho…i take all credit (well…Reina too) for inspiring this post! lol…you are a trip…

    oh and to let you know the reason I didn’t ‘like’ you before I read your blog is cuz I used to date a now semi-famous college football star named Preston…and lets just say, that name aint my fave on men…lol…it’s all love for YOU tho…can’t wait to hear the answers on this one!

    Ladies…ya’ll are doing me dirty right about now. WITHHOLD THE BOOTY UNTIL THE SMELL OF STIPPERS IS OUT OF YOUR MAN’S ESSENCE! lol…im done now

    //no imageCheslea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 10:38 am

  8. Silkie & LL&M — HOLD ME DOWN!! LOL…thank you.

    LL&M — I won’t even date a girl unless she at least drinks socially!! That’s how much I LOVE tipsy hook ups. I think I put it as one of my DEAL BREAKERS

    Meseman — EXACTLY. Let her come home from ANYWHERE horny and we say, “no”…it’s IMMEDIATELY gonna be, “what do you mean, “no”???…..who are you fuckin?”…lol!

    Reina — Your persistence and consistence is admirable. I get the feeling you don’t take ANY shit…but are a really down ass girlfriend. That said…you should still break him off a little somethin. LOL…c’mon…

    Chelsea — Ohhhhh, I gotcha. Hopefully I can redeem the name Preston for you. And you’re exactly right…the article was on fly guy but you and Reina were damn sure the moderators of the comments…lol!! Shouts out to you both. Now c’mon…I took a shower. My essence is all yours baby!! =)

    //no imagePreston Swagger (Who am I?) (author)
    25 September 2008 at 11:07 am

  9. thanks Preston…please redeem the name cuz he has SHATTERED it for me(and quite a few other females im sure)

    So question to the men out there…why do you go to the strip club if you have a beautiful girl at home that you love and desire so much?

    On FlyGuy someone (you prehaps Preston?) said that if his girl worked a pole for him at home, then he wouldn’t NEED to go to the strip club. Ever? Never again would you step foot in there? Just a question.

    Come home, take a shower, make use of some Jergens and http://www.blackbooties.cum or think about that awesome dance Mercedes gave you and then get your ass in the bed and I’ll see you in the morning.

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 11:37 am

  10. I don’t see the big deal about strip clubs, as long as you ain’t sleeping with the strippers and your coming home to me to get some, hell yea i’mma give it to you.. men are highly visual creatures and i’m sorry if i don’t feel like walking around in 15inch heels a feather boa and a string all the time and dropping down to get my eagle on, so go to the strip club just look and don’t touch..

    //no imageBahama (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 11:45 am

  11. @ Preston:

    I would have to say that your perception of moi is correct. My tolerance is low, but I do all I can to keep my man satisfied in all aspects. And if that includes stripping for him, I’m game. We can even pick out the costume together. Nurse Nancy this week, Secretary Suze next week. Let’s work it out!

    However, I’m just not okay with my man being sexually aroused by someone else and bringing it home for me to deal with. And no, that does give him leave to screw Kandy. It does give him leave to go in the den, pull up some porn, and rub it out. Go to the strip club, have fun. I’m not expecting you to be thinking of me while you’re getting that lap dance. And I will let you back in the house when you return. I may even make you breakfast the next morning, and we could possibly get in on at the table. But that night, it’s not happening. Nope.

    @ meseman

    So you’re implying that unless I do give him some, he’s going to get it from somewhere else. Why are men always trying to control women with the threat of cheating or leaving us? My reply: buh-bye.

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:03 pm

  12. “15inch heels a feather boa…” — hilarious!

    I’ll stand in some 5 inch heels and a feather boa. eff walking around in them…LOL

    I don’t get the big deal about the strip club either. It does require you to totally trust your man tho.

    and ladies…It’s just NOT NICE to have your man go to the strip club watch some naked booties prance around the stage, come home horny as hell and then you tell him NO HE CAN’T HAVE THE BOOTY. Had he stayed his ass home all day he would’ve gotten it? That’s just wrong! And if that’s the case you’ll probably leave him feeling like he should’ve gotten some at the strip club dammit!

    It gets real SERIOUS when you’re laying there horny as hell next to your boo and you can’t get none!

    Don’t worry Preston…i got chu! ;)

    //no imageloveliesandmusic (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:11 pm

  13. Is the logic flawed a little bit?? I mean it’s no secret that men are visual creatures. And it’s no secret that strip clubs are overt sexually charged forums…

    So let’s talk about the not so overt. What if I just parked the car and I’m walking over to my girl’s apartment or house or whatever. On the way I see some woman that I find attractive. Being a visual creature…I see her…Mr. Happy likes what the eyes are seeing and he stands up a little bit…(or maybe a lot).

    Isn’t that the same thing in a more subtle manner. Isn’t that another woman getting your man aroused and then you taking care of it. Men probably get aroused 10 times a day by something in our office, on our lunch break, on our commute, on our walk to the car, from the car…whatever. The only thing that matters is WHO we go to to take care of it, right?

    //no imagePreston Swagger (Who am I?) (author)
    25 September 2008 at 12:15 pm

  14. “i’m sorry if i don’t feel like walking around in 15inch heels a feather boa and a string all the time and dropping down to get my eagle on,”

    –Bahama

    Girl i love you…hilarious

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:16 pm

  15. Bahama……..I’m crying……from laughing!! LOL

    I’m with you loveliesandmusic on all of that…….don’t let those tables get turned on you! I bet your ass you won’t leave your boy high and dry ever again! LOL

    //no imageSILKIE TRICKZ (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:18 pm

  16. LL&M — MY GIRL!!

    //no imagePreston Swagger (Who am I?) (author)
    25 September 2008 at 12:19 pm

  17. Ok. Let me rephrase my statement. I’m not okay with my man being sexually aroused by someone HE PAID to arouse him and bringing it home for me to deal with.

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:25 pm

  18. @Preston

    the strip club is different thought. its a place you went EXCLUSIVELY to get away from you girl and enjoy the sexuality and nakedness of other women. You paid for that pleasure. You drove there, bought the drinks, paid the admission and paid for the dance(s). You went there to get aroused by someone else. Your wife/girlfriend was not on your mind in the club. So when you come home, that erection you have isn’t for me. It wasn’t me dancing naked on you, it was another woman, so I am not going to be the one that you take the sexual agression out on.

    You didn’t go to your car or to your job, or the grocery store, etc. to get turned on by someone else. That beautiful chick just happened to cross your path in those everyday places. I feel the same way if my man is watching porn before I come home and greets me at the door with an erection and a smile. Homie, that ain’t for me. That’s for Lola Feathers and her threesome crew…psh please. Dont make it so obvious that someone else has turned you on and me, as your girlfriend, is the only logical and safe way to get the release you’re looking for.

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:26 pm

  19. @Reina

    i know we best friends and all, but this is getting scary. Stop thinking the EXACT same thing im thinking! read our comments and then look at the times that we post them. They’re identical and only seconds apart. Scary, girl…wow. Great minds…

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:29 pm

  20. I know! You’re just more verbose than me, but seriously, I think I’ve found my twin!

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:30 pm

  21. Preston - “The only thing that matters is WHO we go to to take care of it, right?”
    ~ *shruggs shoulders* that’s how I feel about it.

    I think it’s goes deeper than going to a strip club or seeing some hot chick walking down the street and getting aroused. I think this has a lot to do with our insecurites….

    because if I was insecure with my ish i wouldn’t feel comfortable with my man going to the strip club. looking at naked hoes. I’d be checking for his reaction when a hot chick walks by. When you’re secure in your relationship none of that matters. And fellas don’t get it f’d up….security is something you give. and women I’m not talking about self esteem either.

    We (men and women) do things throughout the relationship to let each other know that “you got me. I ain’t going nowhere. Yeah…he/she is hot but what I got right here…this ish right here…is that krypto chronic krytonite!!!” LOL

    I’m serious!

    //no imageloveliesandmusic (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:43 pm

  22. @ chelsea and reina - you allow your man to go to the strip club knowing full well what’s he going there for and then you punish him when he comes home? I’m just trying to understand what’s really going on here.

    //no imageloveliesandmusic (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:50 pm

  23. @ LLM

    I’m not insecure. If I was, I’d raise holy hell about his going to a strip club. I’m not shy with my words. If I had issues with him going, he would know. No doubt at all. And if he starts going too often, he’ll be informed of that, too.

    Every person has things that they allow or do not in a relationship. This is one of those things for me, and it’s not due to fear of someone taking my man. I make NO decisions on such an uncontrollable possibility. I don’t remain in relationships I’m not secure in, and I don’t stress my pretty little head about what he does when he isn’t with me. While he’s at the strip club, I won’t be calling his phone, won’t be pacing the hall. If he stays out too late, he’ll find me asleep when he returns. If I’m awake or if I glanced at the clock in his absence, it’s because I missed him, not because I was trying to guess which stripper was in his lap.

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:56 pm

  24. uh…yeah. You either stay home and watch me drop and give you 50 and get the Good Good, or you and ya boys go and have a good time with Diamond. That’s the trade off…call it what you will.

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:58 pm

  25. I’m not the one doing the punishing as long as he’s informed of the consequence beforehand. If he still goes, he punishes himself. And it’s not punishment. So he didn’t get any. He’ll survive.

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 12:58 pm

  26. that man got to go see all the naked women of every body type and shade known to man for hours on end, as well as drink and hang with his boys and fondle a few of those said women, and…at the end of this long night of carnal pleasure, I’m supposed to open up and let him have sex with ME? And if I don’t i’m punishing him? WTF??? How does that work?

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:06 pm

  27. @Preston: Other option: HELL NAW, he ain’t going to a strip club! (outside of me taking him for a very special occasion.) And the dilemma to which I am speaking is him hanging out with the guys after the club with some of the girls they know from the strip club (or somewhere else)…what to do, what to do, what to do?!?!

    @Messeman: Although I am sure that some men would go straight home after the strip club and not do anything with anyone else, I’ve had the luxury of being around men and various situations and some of them don’t know how to act when their SO is not around. It’s not that I have insecurities, it’s just that SOME men SOME times can’t think clearly or make good decisions when g-strings and azz is all around them. I’m just making his life easier…don’t want to unduly stress the brain.

    //no imageChocolate Chiq (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:19 pm

  28. @ Reina - But the sole reason he didn’t get any was because he was at the strip club. Sounds like punishment to me.

    @ Chelsea - Your reaction to his action is punishment. All he wants is a lil pleasure. It’s not like you won’t benefit from it. Or will you? Now that’s another story! LOL

    But seriously I just don’t get the big deal.

    That’s my man. i would expect him to pleasure me when I want it and i know he expects the same thing from me…regardless of the fact that he went to the strip club tonight. I mean like Preston said…If i’m watching “Love Jones” and get all inspired by Lorenze Tate’s fine ass and I want to get freaky with my man I’d be pissed as hell if his ass blew me off because somebody else got me aroused.

    //no imageloveliesandmusic (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:23 pm

  29. @loveliesandmusic While I don’t agree with punishing him, I probably wouldn’t have that problem because he wouldn’t be going to the strip club w/ his boys in the first place.

    //no imageChocolate Chiq (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:36 pm

  30. so if he came home from a feast of epic proportions (corny, but whatever)…im still supposed to cook for him/feed him cuz his greedy ass requests it?

    he got the pleasure from the strippers. Thats why he’s horny now!

    if im looking a Nelly’s sexy ass in a video or movie and now ‘all of a sudden’ im ready for a round on the floor whereas before I was just chillin, my man has a right to make the connection between me and the Nelly video and my horniness and make that call. If he say no, he not wrong cuz it was NELLY that turned me on…not my man laying in the bed in the other room playing Madden. I may not be able to bang Nelly, but I can bang my boyfriend

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:37 pm

  31. @ ChocolateChiq - I can respect that.

    //no imageloveliesandmusic (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:38 pm

  32. and i think we’re forgeting, ladies and gents that we don’t “let” any grown person do anything. If he wanna go, how am i supposed to stop him? lock him in a room? take his keys? just a question

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:41 pm

  33. @ LLM:

    With that same logic, would giving him some be rewarding him? “Yes, babe, I’m so proud of you! You PAID random females to gyrate on your lap and spin around the pole for you. And you came home to me! Ven aqui, big boy, I’m going to let you pound it.”

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:44 pm

  34. @loveliesandmusic Thanks :)

    @chelsea and i think we’re forgeting, ladies and gents that we don’t “let” any grown person do anything. If he wanna go, how am i supposed to stop him? lock him in a room? take his keys? just a question

    It’s not about “letting”, it just having rules/boundaries, that’s all. Different couples have different rules/boundaries for their relationships. As long as they are both aware and are in agreement, that’s their thing.

    //no imageChocolate Chiq (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:48 pm

  35. if you object and he goes anyway that’s a different story.

    and men and women are turned on daily by many different things (i.e. Nelly video, cute chick at the grocery store…whatever) but you’re MY man…you’re turned ON i consider it my job to turn you OFF…by any means necessary.

    //no imageloveliesandmusic (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:50 pm

  36. @CC

    and what if you dont want your man goin to the strip club. if he does then what? do you punish him for disobeying/disrespecting your wishes? when he comes home after you asked him not to go, and he’s horny, does he get any?

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:52 pm

  37. @Chelsea

    Girlfriend, let me tell you. If we have an agreement that he is not going to go to strip clubs and he goes anyway. THE LAST THING that he needs to worry about is getting any from me! Violating our agreement is a MAJOR, MAJOR issue…the conversation turns to whether or not the relationship is worth keeping…he wouldn’t even dream about asking me for sex at that point.

    //no imageChocolate Chiq (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 1:58 pm

  38. loveliesandmusic,
    Thank you for your quotes,
    Reina and Chelsea,
    women like you scare me, because you wear your insecurities.
    I wonder what kind of relationship you have with your man? Yes I have told my women, don’t play the keeping the puzzy away cause you’re mad or I’ve been out or at strip club, OK I’ll give you a week or two, but when it’s been months,WHAT DO YOU EXPECT,like one of you stated, get the Jergens and watch porn and jerk off, wrong, if you take that attitude with your man he will CHEAT,jerking off only makes you want to have sex more and I DON’T CARE HOW FINE YOU LOOK OR HOW MUCH MONEY OR EDUCATION.
    You both sound boring and sexually insecure, missionary position only, no oral, just boring azz sex.
    And if you don’t think that women in his office or the one he sees every morning regardless where he’s at is not turning him on, wrong and when he has that hard on when you walk through the door, make it shot or that administative assistant with that tight dress and breast showing will be taking your man’s dicktation.

    //no imagemeseman (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 2:02 pm

  39. Wow…I was only at the lunch meeting for like 2 hours!! Catching up now…Be back in a few.

    //no imagePreston Swagger (Who am I?) (author)
    25 September 2008 at 2:29 pm

  40. Really? That’s how you debate a subject? By personal attacks and assuming unfounded characteristics. You’re voting for McCain, aren’t you? It’s okay. Don’t be embarrassed. Be proud of your idiocy.

    So I guess you just ignored my statement that I will strip for my guy? Or that he may get it the next morning on the table at breakfast? You just ignored that like any good Fox News pundit. And made assumptions that he hadn’t gotten laid in weeks and went to the strip club as a resort.

    Maybe you didn’t ignore it. Maybe it just didn’t filter through the sexual frustration that’s clouding your brain. Your sperm is starting back up your nervous system, isn’t it? Be serious. Only females that do give you oral are those strippers you paid for. And if your “women” are holding out on you for weeks at a time, it’s not cause they’re mad. It’s because you can’t fuck.

    //no imageReina (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 2:31 pm

  41. uh oh…im getting insulted here

    @meseman

    you’re opinion is off about me…I’m sure off with reina as well. I am not boring, insecure or a sexual prude. Far from it. I am very secure in my sexuality, my relationships and what I can offer a man in a relationship.

    I know that if you withhold sex from a man, he can and will cheat. But I’m a firm believer that men don’t need a REASON to cheat…they just need a PLACE! So whether I’m role-playing and doing things that make porn stars blush, or I’m only giving up the good good on nationally recognized holidays, if my man is a cheating ass, them he’s a cheating ass. Point black, period. Nothing I DO is going to change that. So fuck all that blah blah you talking bout.

    I get so sick of men with that “do what i want or I’ll just find someone else to do it”…if me not jumping on the pipe whenever YOU want me to is a reason to make you stray, then Imma happily wave “ta-ta!” as you pack ur bags and hit the ground running boo. I don’t need ya!

    Do you honestly think my man cheating SCARES me? I could give a damn if he sexes every stripper in the country, or bangs my mom…do what you want, buddy, cuz you won’t be calling Chelsea “baby” after that.

    Men like YOU amuse me..calling me insecure cuz I don’t play that BS. Just a quick 411 for ya…I LOVE goin to gentlemen’s clubs…freaky sex is my FORTE…my head game is MIRACULOUS…i got plenty of thongs and clear heels, slow grind music and camera equipment in my house and I keep it sexy and classy 24/7. If I scare you, it’s cuz YOUR soft! Don’t blame your insecurity and inexperience on me! its still all love tho Meseman!! :)

    //no imageChelsea...Not the Girl Next Door (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 2:33 pm

  42. “men and women are turned on daily by many different things (i.e. Nelly video, cute chick at the grocery store…whatever) but you’re MY man…you’re turned ON i consider it my job to turn you OFF…by any means necessary.” And God will bless you for that, LL&M. He surely will!! He surely will!

    *begins to clap hands*

    “So I guess you just ignored my statement that I will strip for my guy? Or that he may get it the next morning on the table at breakfast?” — Yeah meseman — she did drop that back in an earlier comment. I see a blessing in your future too Reina! Praise him!

    *begins to jump up and down*

    “I LOVE goin to gentlemen’s clubs…freaky sex is my FORTE…my head game is MIRACULOUS…i got plenty of thongs and clear heels, slow grind music and camera equipment in my house and I keep it sexy and classy 24/7″ I will open up the windows of heaven Chelsea!! Pull you out a blessing you won’t have room enough to receive!!

    *Dancing*

    LOL!!! I think the take away here is the point that was made earlier and often about BOUNDARIES! You know what your girl is giving to you and requiring of you to make the relationship work. If you can’t roll with that…then you shouldn’t be in it.

    The ladies in this post know what they will and won’t put up with in a relationship… they all know what they are willing to give.

    But no matter how you saw things, you know what you all have in common???

    Nobody in here changed ANY of your minds. I respect that…and despite what I’ve quoted above…that my be the sexiest part of this whole thing.

    //no imagePreston Swagger (Who am I?) (author)
    25 September 2008 at 3:14 pm

  43. I’m the resident asshole around here so I had to chime in. I was admiring from afar working on my own barrage of work to be unleashed on the site and I had one nagging question. To the ladies who wouldn’t “allow” (which cracks me up btw) their man to go the club…is this same rule in place if he goes to a regular club and comes home horny? Is the kicker the nature of the club? The strippers (not the whore-strippers) get paid for an illusion; to arouse men to a point and then leave them wanting more. And by more I mean you! It seems like semantics to me. He can come home horny from anywhere but the boom boom room and he’s good. No questions about how he got randy. He goes to see some topless gymnastics, looks and doesn’t touch, maybe drops a few dollars (btw..not all men buy dances in the club.) then comes home frisky and it’s no good? To Reina. Hell yeah it’s rewarding him! Because he did only pay and look. Or drink a beer and look. Whatever he did, he just looked! I understand your stance but I feel that infrequent trips to Bada Bing shouldn’t be punished. And yes…my baby giving me the cold anything is punishment!

    //no imageI.M. Haight (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 6:58 pm

  44. i used to like strip clubs myself, but not here in Az. Here every other one got some fake tits fake smile and they don’t dance very well. In Russia it’s more like a show and girls are like pieces of art. Don’t really like to see male strippers, they just look gay to me for some reason LOL. As for man going to strip club, well i don’t really care, he still will go, no matter of your opinion, he just not gonna tell u, if you say no. so why bother, he still always brings his ass home and i’d rather prefer him to go to strip club than some drunk party, at least i know those girls not gonna ride him or they’re gonna ask him to pay some cash, and i know for sure he isn’t paying for ass LOL but at the parties those drunk nymphos don’t even care if he tells them that he has gf, they don’t even care if his gf is sitting next to him, they jus wanna ride any dick, that kind of ish i don’t like

    //no imageMasha (Who am I?)
    25 September 2008 at 8:36 pm

  45. @I.M.Haight To the ladies who wouldn’t “allow” (which cracks me up btw) their man to go the club…is this same rule in place if he goes to a regular club and comes home horny? Is the kicker the nature of the club?

    The same thing always happen when rules/boundaries in a relationships are discussed. As was stated in earlier posts, it is not “allowing”, it’s about having two adults in agreement about aspects of their relationship. If a man doesn’t want his woman to go the club until 3 am every weekend with her girlfriends, is he not “allowing” her to go if they both agree that she is not going to stay out late w/ her girlfriend? If a woman doesn’t want her man having online conversations of a sexual nature on line with other women, is she not “allowing” him to chat, even if they both agreed that he won’t do it. The simple answer is if two people don’t agree on an important issue, they can either work it out or end the relationship.

    Can you understand, that a woman might be absolutely OK with a man watching porn but not be OK with him going to the strip club w/ his boys?

    Of course, most women want to satisfy their man. Your question seems to be “why are strip clubs a problem for some women?”. I answered that earlier:

    Although I am sure that some men would go straight home after the strip club and not do anything with anyone else, I’ve had the luxury of being around men and various situations and some of them don’t know how to act when their SO is not around. It’s not that I have insecurities, it’s just that SOME men SOME times can’t think clearly or make good decisions when g-strings and azz is all around them. I’m just making his life easier…don’t want to unduly stress the brain.

    And the dilemma to which I am speaking is him hanging out with the guys after the club with some of the girls they know from the strip club (or somewhere else)…what to do, what to do, what to do?!?!

    //no imageChocolate Chiq (Who am I?)
    26 September 2008 at 10:17 am

  46. Another thing I forgot to add about “allowing” your SO to do whatever.

    If you are going to be seriously involved with someone, make sure that on major issues, you have similar views. If a man does not like for a woman to smoke weed, don’t seriously date a weed-smoker then have engage in arguments about her weed smoking. If a woman likes to have her male friends call her cell phone whenever they like, she should not become seriously involved with a guy who doesn’t want a male ringing her cell at 11 p.m.

    No one is perfect, nor is any relationship perfect, but we have the ability to decide what we want and don’t want in a relationship.

    //no imageChocolate Chiq (Who am I?)
    26 September 2008 at 10:25 am

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