Blog Groupies???
October 8, 2008 by J (Preston)
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A grade school teacher once told me that I shouldn’t write how I talk. I responded, “what if I speak well”?
That’s one thing the writers on this site — and most successful blogs for that matter — have in common. Our blogs are more of a conversation. Our goal is to entertain, engage and intrigue you. Stimulate a little thought…which stimulates a few comments…which stimulates the writers…which leads to new articles.
But what if something else is stimulated?
When I first became aware of Blog Love or more specifically The Blog Groupie, it was both completely crazy and completely rational to me. It was crazy because the last thing you’d think a blog writer would have is a groupie. Blogs don’t make us much money…It doesn’t keep us physically fit…and any “fame” or “recognition” it leads to is typically modest at very best.
Why dig a blog writer?
But there’s a part of this that makes perfect sense. From chat rooms to online dating sites, to myspace…people really began to open themselves up to the possibility of finding love sex on the internet. They surf around looking for people just as they would in bars…and some of them are very forward. In a lot of ways it’s even better than a bar or a club. When you run across someone’s blog you get a glimpse into their personality, state of mind, opinions etc. Imagine knowing all of this about the guy who just approached you at the bar before he even opens his mouth!
Yeah that’d be helpful…
Typically you continue to visit certain sites because they connect with you on some level. Humor, love, pop culture, gossip…whatever. You enjoy the person’s take. Now if the blog discusses sex and relationships a majority of the time…then you and the writer are continually discussing sex and relationships. It’s only natural to become curious. Are they as good as they described? Are they as skilled as they seem. Would it be as good as I imagined? Some people just have to find out.
Blog writers would you ever hook up with someone you met through your blog (have you ever)?
Blog readers would you have a fling with one of the authors of a site you visit? How about a relationship?
Since I asked…I’ll answer:
No — Haven’t had any flings or groupies. This is a new blog though…lol
If something did “pop up” would I pursue it? — Tough question. Definitely not a jumpoff. Too big a headache. Those things rarely end well and I wouldn’t want her terrorizing the comments section or assuming every post was about her… The risk isn’t worth the reward in my opinion.
If something that seemed legitimate came up, then what? — hmmmm. The blog would be irrelevant in that case. I would treat it just like any other place that we met. Grocery Story. Coffee Shop. Whatever… I would do the same things. Commence to getting to know the person…let them get to know me…and then see if it works from there. No difference…no pressure. Except for the fact that she could come by here at anytime and get my candid views on everything from politics to oral sex…lol. But whatever…I’ve got nothing to hide.
Truthfully, I have lousy luck when it comes to things like this anyway. I’m the guy who’ll meet somebody who’s cool as hell and then discover they live in another country or on the opposite coast or something…
So that’s me…what about you?? Blog Love — let’s here it:
–Pres
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I’ve been holla’d at via my blog a few times and I’m always pretty shocked by it. Mainly because I don’t have any pics of myself on the site and I don’t talk about anything sexual or faintly romantic on my blog ever. One guy even sent me pics of his Charles Dickens..yeah..That’s what I thought too.
I wouldn’t give any romantic consideration to anyone I met online period whether it be my blog or not. Maybe I’m a bit traditional but it’s just not my style. I DO have blog homies tho and have even in conversation with my peoples, gone so far as to be like “My homegirl said such and such” and then later realize it was actually one of my blog homies. That’s dorky enough for me.
@ Kitty — WOW! No pictures of yourself on the site and fools are still sending you the Charles Dickens!?!? I don’t even have the words. I understand why people have strict rules when it comes to their blog. It can get dicey… I play it as it comes. It’s what I do with everything, actually. Unless it comes with Charles Dickens… DAMN, I can’t believe that!!! lol…
Hell yeah. I think it’s our duty, our OBLIGATION, to take advantage of all the free poontang we can get as broke authors (well my blog ain’t makin me any money). We worked hard to build up this fame (and nonfortune). We give so much of ourselves and it’s only fair we get something back. Personally, I hope one day I’ll be like Tommy Chong and get free weed all day. As long as it’s good shit, I am fine wit that. If I get a lil lick here and get to stab a lil something there, that’s just icing on the cake. They can keep the money. Gimme tight ass and potent grass. In fact, I might make that my motto. LOL.
Seriously, if it’s love, do what you can to keep it. It don’t matter where or how you find it. It’s there. Who are we to complain about where it came from or how it got there. If I find some fine ass, intelligent, beautiful pothead through my blog, you know I’m all over it.
LOL - this is HILAR-US!! LOL
Interesting post! When I heard from my brother that this chick starting sending him pictures of herself half-naked just by him talking to her on the phone for the very first time - NOTHING surprises me anymore. OUT OF CONTROL! LOL
When you’re talking about blogging, it’s all good putting yourself out there ANONYMOUSLY and kudos to those of you who are using their real name/faces. You’re right Mr. Swagg - your ass can get REAL curious about those you finger feel each and every day - LOL
AT - you are really on a whole new level, but the thing about it is, can’t be mad at you. I guess if those women are willing to give you what you want - who are you to refuse? FUNNY TO ME!
Hmmmm…I have to say that it can be a very susicious situation. You’re not sure if these people are who they say they are. As for my site…what you see is what you get. It’s all me. I am a firm believer in fate, destiny and all that good stuff. I think that GOD put people in your life for a reason. I’ve never dated a blogger and haven’t had any advances through my site…I’m new at this well. There is still a trust factor and like Preston said if two people are diggin’ each other then the blog becomes obsolete. You have to approach the situation the same way you would any other “normal” situation. You have to take that time to really get to know that person. There are a lot of deciding factors. You definitely have to be cautious.
@ AT - I can’t say it enuff!…YOU ARE A COMPLETE MESS!..LOL You are completely honest…i guess. A bit rash at times…but if it works for you then…SMH…I don’t even know what to say.
@ Anthony — PURE…UNADULTERATED…COMEDY. That’s you my man. I wish you and your blog the best!! I hope you get everything you want out of it…LOL…
@ Silkie — “Finger feel each day”?? Are you gonna hit me with a brilliant quote everyday!!?? LOL I’m not sure I could take it. You’re right though…while the internet makes some people stay anonymous…it makes others FORWARD AS HELL.
@LL&M — Your blog is fairly new and you have a picture up…the solicitations will come. I think for blogs run by women — it’s not a question of “if” but “when”. Hopefully they keep it clean for you!
I have no blog love stories. I only blog on MySpace, and MySpacers are a different breed. LOL I would be hesitant about starting something because I like the blogs I do frequent. There are only like 2, maybe 3, and they’re like my havens. Some people can’t handle rejection, and I’d rather not have my personal business posted on a website.
@Preston - Why do you think it’s a matter of “when”? I think male bloggers get more “groupie love” than women bloggers. Men almost never post pics of themselves on their site and they get love just the same. If a woman doesn’t post a pic up it’s presumed that she’s hiding something. What do you think?
@Reina -ooh that’s a good one. I wouldn’t want my personal business out there either. That leads back to the trust factor.
I think interactions between bloggers is similar to any other online interactions, except you get a really good idea of the blogger’s mindset.
My blog is relatively new too, and I’ve never been involved with a blogger.
I’m not big on meeting/dating people online…I would have to meet the person in order to move past friendship or harmless flirting.
But, I really like the fact that I feel like I have met some new “friends” since I started blogging.
@ Reina & LL&M — I PROMISE whatever business you share will stay between us and whichever article comments you posted them in. =)
Seriously though…if ANYONE ever contacts me privately…then we’ll speak privately…and that will stay private. The same fear exists for the blogger about their business. I wouldn’t want someone blowin me up in the comments section…lol.
@CC — I agree completely. I feel like a little kid saying it…but it really does feel like you’ve made new friends. I’ll be out on the playground if anyone wants to hang…
“Seriously though…if ANYONE ever contacts me privately…then we’ll speak privately…and that will stay private.”
That sounds like an ad in the paper!! LOL
“I’ll be out on the playground if anyone wants to hang…”
ME TOO, ME TOO!!!!!!!! (in an excited child’s voice)
@LL&M — “Why do you think it’s a matter of “when”?” — you have a blog. you have your picture on it. you are an attractive woman. that’s all it takes for guys. your blog will keep getting more exposure and the groupie love will follow. that’s my prediction.
While the guys do have their strong admirers…I think men will usually act on it more (like Kitty getting the picture of some guy’s junk). I think there are more men out there doing that than women. But like I said…this blog is new so my personal knowledge/experience is minimal…I could be WAY off.
@AT…once again you have me laughing waaay too loud at work!! lol
Never hooked up with any bloggers or people that read this. But this is new…check back with me in a month! I have hooked up with women I met online but it was rare. I’m pretty impulsive so the people that know me shouldn’t be shocked by that information. If my spidey senses don’t go off…I roll with it. Of course, it was after conversing online for a while. I am also an open book with no shame so if I did hook up with a reader….it’s fair game. I have a tad bit of tact so names would be changed to protect the innocent!! lol But that’s the risk you run of dating/boning someone with a creative license!!
That being said. I can see female bloggers having more groupies than male. Or at least groupies that actually try to take it past the “fan” stage. A woman might admire us but she would hesitant to make it known. Just my opinion though.
@Preston - Thanks. You are too kind. I guess men are quicker to act on an advancement than women are *ahem* Anthony…I have to agree with CC when she said:
“I’m not big on meeting/dating people online…I would have to meet the person in order to move past friendship or harmless flirting.
But, I really like the fact that I feel like I have met some new “friends” since I started blogging.”
Harmless flirting…everybody does it every now and then…right?
@ Haight - ahem…I beg to differ.
LOL … good post. Since my blog is centered around my radio show, the movie “Play Misty for Me” comes to mind. A lady stalks the radio host. Hilarious and great acting by Clint Eastwood and the mom from Arrested Development/grandmom from the new 90210. I have been doing my show since April and so far nothing has jumped off. My blog started in june and I can see how this could start something real quick …
Depends on who it is and how we vibe if it would venture from harmless to potential …
I definitely feel that fate is fate..and if for some crazy reason you get through to the Suga HiL exterior through the blog world(i’ll def take notice). But I have had the expierece of Facebook (in it’s early seemed to postive days) and even then I had to get off plus there was too much creepiness(sp?) coming my way. Plus, if anything you might have someone have such a positive and inspiring effect on you that would have never realized and that is priceless. (Yeah i know i’m a little cliche’ @ times)
“…people really began to open themselves up to the possibility of finding
lovesex on the internet.” ~ LMAO!I got so caught up in comments I forgot the question… I’ve never been a “regular” on any blog & the blog I had wasnt anything big and I knew the people who read it outside of the internet.
But hey, I could see why chicks might become blog groupies… sometimes it can be so hard for a guy to open up & in a blog the whole point is to be open & honest (qualities most find attractive). So if you’re saying stuff the girl(s) can identify/agree with then she becomes attracted to your personality; it’s only natural, I think.
@ Mirth — Now they can read your thoughts AND hear your voice. Be careful out there…lol
@ Suga — A lot of times cliches are true tho! That’s how they got to be cliche…
@ Stefani — “So if you’re saying stuff the girl(s) can identify/agree with then she becomes attracted to your personality; it’s only natural, I think” — So that means I’m hot right? It’s ok…you can say it!…LOL. My sincerest thanks for comin by the site. I hope you make it a habit.
NOW HOLD ON A SECOND!! NOBODY is going to mention how funny that little kid in the picture is???? I was laughing at that for like 15 minutes when I posted this article. I mean his facial expression!! The fact that it looks like it was taken in 1988?! Nobody?? I’m laughing at it RIGHT NOW…
@Preston - I’m laughing cause you’re laughing…you are a mess! LOL he was probably the man after taking that picture!
It’s funny that Kitty even mentioned that b/c I had another blogger (won’t say any names) send me a video of him masturbating while thinking of me. He most definitely had NOT seen pictures of me. Strange.
This topic brings another topic to mind – my friend said to me last week (during happy hour – of course) cute men don’t have time to blog. I said “so cute girls can blog but not men?” she said yes emphatically because “all the cute talented writers are too busy getting some in real life to be blogging.” What does the peanut gallery say???
Anyway I’ve never datedhooked up with/boinked anyone via my blog but plenty of men have asked me via comments/twitter if they can see my picture. On that one day that I did post it for two hours on Twitter I was told that I could have a man if I wanted one and got about 20 new followers on Twitter. Pops collar LMAO! Kidding, Preston.
I can’t say what the future holds though…you never know.
The Peanut Gallery says — Every ONE of your friends would give it to EVERY ONE of the writers on this site.
Without Question…
We stay anonymous so we can speak freely about people at our jobs, in love lives, etc. But the boys hold it down…you better check my last name Haute…lol
Seriously though, I actually think it’s the opposite. The cats that I know, have met, or at least seen who are bloggers are gettin it in. One of them does “Cinderella” posts where he blogs about when he taps a reader in real life. Girls SEE these posts…and other ones still line up. I’ll never understand it…I’ll never hate on it either. Personally, it’s just not my steez…
oh goodness, i can’t imagine “hooking up with anybody I met through my blog” **whispers my blog attracts crazy people** LOL just kidding. This blogging thing is something else and opens up so many new doors for crazy people. Would I sleep with someone I met thru my blog? Depends, i wouldn’t say no but I won’t say hell yes either…you never know.But I do agree I have made actual friends thru blogging..Me and my blog partner have never spoken on the phone but we are still close. And I have a group of folks on a forum, we share just about everything with each other, that I consider my buddies, lol. The internet isn’t it grand??
And AT you sir, are a fool!!!!
This topic is hella ironic for me right about now, someone e-mailed me a crazy a$$ love letter yesterday! I was like um…wtf? Occassionaly I’ll get a flirtaeous e-mail or comment, but not too much. The lips do bring out the weirdos though.