How To Reel Her In (Part 1)

We’ve touched on How To Talk To Pretty Women (Part 1 & Part 2) and I’ve spent a great deal of time on male do’s and don’ts. So let’s say you follow our advice and you’ve found success (you would if you did, by the way…I’m just sayin). You’ve got the number. Maybe had a phone conversation or two, maybe a date. Here are some tips on what to do to finish the job.

Now please keep in mind that today I’m playing the good guy — so we’ll assume that “the job” you’re trying to finish is getting her to be your girl. Next week I’ll give some tips on how to get her to be your jumpoff. We’ll call that one “How To Reel Her In…To Bed”…but until then:

CONVERSATION:
Obviously the two of you haven’t moved in yet and you won’t be dating every single night. So the bulk of your interaction will be on the phone and probably some IM and text. Make no mistake, women are the most analytical creatures on God’s green Earth. Don’t think she’s not noticing your tone, jokes and topic of conversation — whether the words are coming out of your mouth or popping into a chat window is irrelevant. Be engaging and ask questions. And for God’s sake — remember the answers! It’s all about decoding and not missing the hints. For instance, here’s an exert from an Ask-A-Guy letter we’ll be answering tomorrow:

I had to call him regarding our work schedule, and in the course of that conversation, said something about how we should go to a baseball game (we’d discussed it at length the last time we worked together) or get drinks. His text response: “Would that be a date?” My Response: “I believe I said a drink or a game, and as you said, you prefer older women, I don’t fulfill that requirement : )”

Clearly she’s heard this guy spout off about the type of women he usually dates. She’s looking for him to say that his “older woman” thing isn’t a hard and fast rule. She wondering if she can be the exception… She’s pretending to rib him a little bit, but this is actually a probe. Don’t miss it guys!  If a girl doesn’t like you…she probably won’t give a shit about your taste in women.

HUMOR
Be funny if you can. Nothing is better than a guy who can get a smile and lighten the mood. And nothing is worse than a guy who thinks he is funny and really (really) isn’t. Make sure you know the real laughs from the fakes. Also, pay attention when she tells you about something that made her laugh. If it was a satirical cartoon in the New Yorker…remember that and gauge your humor accordingly. If it’s a story about her farting in the elevator and then getting off…remember that too…and take the stairs. Humor comes in brands. If your humor isn’t her flavor…leave it alone.

LISTEN AND DO:
Women are like 3rd grade teachers. They LOVE it when you listen to what they say. Remember it, and apply it. I’m not saying men don’t appreciate that too — But women LOVE IT. If you can precede any gift or activity with the words, “I remembered that you said you liked X so I wanted to do Y for you…“. Major points. It could be something simple and non-extravagant — doesn’t matter. You listened to what she said — comprehended it — and found something similar — THAT is the important part.

Part 2 coming Wednesday after tomorrow’s Ask-A-Guy segment.  Ladies, what are some things that a guy has done that made you swoon early on.  Fellas what things did you do that turned out to be big winners.  Meet me in the comments section…

Peace, Love & Good Game,

J (Pres)
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