Ask A Guy - Advice For A Lady Pimp

We’re back with another Ask-A-Guy question and I’m happy about the change of pace the question presents. Check it out:

I am currently talking (just talking) to 5 guys. All of them are interested in me, I am really only interested in 2 of them. One of the guys I’m not so into wanted to be my boyfriend the second time we talked! It freaked me out, he had a “timeline” i.e. after we hand out 3 times we can be kissy in public, then after 6 times we will be bf/gf! The second guy quotes Dane Cook all the time and it annoys the crap out of me, and the third guy is 21 years old. I am 27 and don’t want to mess with the going out to the bars acting stupid all the time anymore.

1. Should I give all 5 of them a chance to take me out?

2. How do guys feel about a girl seeing more than one person at a time?

Lady Pimp

(Editor’s Note: I gave this reader the anonymous name “Lady Pimp”. She never referred to herself as such)

Well Lady Pimp,

Nice work! You’re out there looking good, doing your thing and getting attention because of it. Now, what to do with all this attention?!

Should you let all of them take you out a few times? Absolutely. There may be a side to one of them that wasn’t readily apparent at first. Spending a little time and listening to these guys will present a little more useful information. Maybe they have a passion or care deeply about something that you do as well. Ya know…don’t judge the book by the cover…and all that good stuff. Plus, we’re in a recession. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with 5 free meals/outings.

BUT

You should keep the fact that you’re surveying 5 guys at once to yourself. Don’t lie. Just say you are single, dating and enjoying meeting new people. We men have tricky egos. Some guys can handle the knowledge that you’re dating other men besides him with no problem. Others (most) would probably feel some kind of way about it. Maybe it would be a big deal to them, maybe it would be a small one — but it would be “a deal”. They would probably act a little different and if your goal is to get a real look at these guys — this is obviously counterproductive. Plus it’s disingenuous. Again, (most) guys act differently in a competition for your heart than they do once they have it.  If he thinks it’s a competition, you’re probably not going to get a genuine look at who he is.

Don’t string this along for too long, though. Giving 5 guys a tryout is one thing, but once it goes on for a while it becomes juggling. And 5 different guys are a lot of balls to keep in the air (he he he…sorry. I couldn’t resist). But seriously though, when you mess up while juggling you usually drop all of the objects — and one of those objects could be the guy you actually wanted…

I hope this was helpful. Now go forth bravely and pimp!

Peace, Love & Options Galore,

J (Pres)
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When Keeping It Metro Goes Wrong

I’ve often been harsh on the fellas about becoming a little bit too feminine. (Jay-Z recently co-signed my entire movement with his street single “DOA”. I have yet to thank him in person)

Yall boys jeans too tight. Ya colors too bright. Your voice to light…

I know we facin a recession, but the music yall makin gon make it the great depression
All your lack of aggression. Pull your skirt back down, grow a set, men!

But I’ve also been careful though, to temper my comments with moderation. I’m not a Neanderthal, nor do I think this is what men should be. In fact, I don’t think it’s what guys are doing so much as how far they’re taking it.

Like Jay references, it’s not that there’s anything wrong with jeans…but when you’re a grown ass man in tight Jeans…well this is where one of many problems begin. So I figured I’d breakdown a few little things that just need to be scaled back. I’m sure this will be 1 of a many part series…

Hands – I clip my fingernails like anyone else. If there’s an edge, I use the file on the clippers and smooth that bad boy out. When I was about 14 I was hanging out with a few females and one of them went on to talk about an occasion when a guy with the aforementioned sharp fingernail edges tried to get to 3rd base…

Yeah…exactly…

Cut your nails. File ‘em! Whatever…

BUT

Weekly manicures? Letting your fingers soak in whatever that stuff is that chicks use? Applying anything that has to be brushed on? Doing anything that requires you to blow on your nails when you’re finished? You’re going too far!

FACE – Obviously I wash my face (shout out to Neutrogena). Afterwards I use some retardedly expensive “face lotion”. It keeps my cheeks baby soft, homey!! That’s it! End of story. (although my girl swears she’s gonna give me an “exfoliation” – I don’t even know how one does that shit…)

BUT

If you’re using some sort of mask? Or if you’re putting any sort of fruit or vegetable over your eyes?! Someone should slap the shit out of you! You’re going too far!

MANSCAPING – I usually keep a bald head or a short haircut. Outside of that dude who plays Lex Luthor on Smallville, it’s one of few things black men still have over white guys: We can usually rock the bald head without a problem. I inherited extremely slow growing eyebrows, so I don’t ever have to do anything there. And I shave when my face hits 5 o’clock (shout out to goatees).

Just about every guy now knows that having your junk in a field of untamed bushes is a non-starter, so we hook that up with a trim as well. And the “sweater chest” always needs to be handled.

BUT

Shaving any type of pattern into the pubes?! A landing strip?! Or being completely bald everywhere south of your chin?! You’re doing too much!? And if you shave your legs, you should go kill yourself!!

Ladies what ridiculousness have you witnessed from the guys? Fellas what have you almost had to slap your friend for? Part 2 coming soon. Let’s get into it!

Peace, Love & Moderation

J (Pres)
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The Lighter Side Of Porn (SFW)

Ladies, maybe you watch a little porn by yourself (God bless you). Maybe you watch a little porn with your man. Maybe you don’t watch any porn at all (None? Really? It’s 2009, get in the game!)

Well even if you hate porn and see no use for it, I have one thing you’ll love. Porn Titles!

Why?

Because they are the funniest things known to mankind!

So sit back relax and let’s explore the lighter, hilarious side of our favorite movie genre. Oh and PLEASE add your favorite porn titles to the comments below. We know you’ve got a ton one!

First up, the straight-forward titles. These are the titles that don’t worry about being tactful; they just wanna tell you what you’re getting. No gimmicks, no puns, no slang, no jokes – but still all comedy.

Big Butt Brotha Luvas – Here, as you can imagine, are women who have a larger than average backside who happen to be a fan of black men. Clear as day… Kudos on the alliteration

Mr. Chews Asian Beaver – Again, very clear what you’re getting here. Straight to the point.

Bang Bus – Ladies and gentlemen enjoying coitus while on a moving bus or van. In other words – innovation

First Timers Part 4 – The 4th edition of a movie with nothing but girls going for it on camera for the first time. We salute you, brave souls.

Next up, the ethnic titles. Always hilarious – these are the titles that try to appeal to a certain group by being hip and using the slang or language they often use.

Phatty Rhymes & Dimes – Notice how the fat is spelled with the “ph”. I’d venture a guess that these movies also feature a terrible rapper you’ve never heard of in between scenes – which of course adds to the comedy

Mami Culo Grande – See how they said it in Spanish? Yeah, did you catch that…

Onion Booty – Because the booty is so nice it will make you cry. Lovely…

Next we have the intellectuals. The porn names that are a take on a famous novel or play. It’s the best of both worlds – mental and physical stimulation. I mean how can your mind not be stimulated by titles such as

A Midsummer Night’s Cream
A Tale of Two T*tties
Phallus in Wonderland
Will He Bonk Ya In The Chocolate Factory

It’s poetry. Really…

Last is one of my absolute favorites. The porn titles that riff off of TV shows and movies. This is where the true genius of pornography is really exemplified…

Grinding Nemo
Add Momma To The Train
Big Trouble In Little Vagina
Field Of Wet Dreams
How Stella Got Her Tube Packed
Forrest Hump
Men in Back
Romancing The Bone
Throbin Hood (Prince of Beaves)
The Empire Likes Crack
Young Buns

Classics and Oscar winners weren’t spared either:

Breakfast On Tiffany
Breast Side Story
Riding Miss Daisy
Sperms of Endearment
Chitty Chitty Gang Bang
Diddle-Her on the Roof
Lawrence Of A Labia

And neither was one of my favorite childhood cartoons:

Inspect Her Gadget

Sure, I like porn. But I LOVE originality and humor – and porn titles have them in spades. So even if you don’t watch the movies just know that if you ever need a good laugh you can peruse your nearest guy friend’s titles for a guaranteed pick-me-up.

No need to thank me. I do this because I care… Now meet me in the comments section!

Peace, Love & A New Copy Of Sperminator,

J (Pres)
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Why Men Cheat…

Well…  A few reasons, anyway.  No introduction needed.  Let’s get involved!

1. He was on his way out the door

It’s really one of the worst things guys do (women do it occasionally as well).  We want to break up with you but we convince ourselves that it would somehow be better to be an asshole or let the distance grow until YOU break up with US.

I’ve done it.

Almost everyone I know has done it at least once.  It’s really just a way of rationalizing cowardice.  So one of the things we may do while the divide grows between us is…another woman.  Best case, you don’t find out.  Worst case, you do what we wanted you to do.  An ugly truth…

2. She did what you wouldn’t

You know what?  For as much as I hear this threatened, I RARELY see it enacted.  Here’s why:

You know what kind of girl you’re gettin’ when you get her!

There are exceptions to every rule, but by-and-large when you’re courting the girl (read: doing all the stuff to get her to sleep with you) you know what kind of girl you’ll soon be…umm…getting into.  As a matter of fact, you probably had a good idea of that a short while after you met her.

Fellas, be honest here.  We all know if we’re getting the “Ewww, get that out of my face!” girl, the “Yeah, you can stick it in every hole…” girl or something in between.

Sure, we all know how women may do some things often in the first 90-120 days and then slowly certain acts taper off.  But a romantic gesture and some alcohol will usually get her right back in the saddle

Ya know…if saddles are what you’re into…

But I’ve never seen a woman do some things in the first 90 days and then just suddenly outright refuse to do them anymore.  So here’s my point: saying “I went and found someone to do what my girlfriend wouldn’t” doesn’t really hold up.  You either:

A) Knew how sexually experimental your girl was — and just looked past it because at the time you really wanted to date/sleep with her

B) Didn’t put forth the effort to get her back to doing those things.

Either way this excuse is a cop out — but then again — so is  reason #1

3. He was upset/angry with you

You REALLY pissed him off.  He REALLY wanted to hurt you back.  The long and short of it is you’re dating an asshole.  Revenge is a powerful motivator, but damn.  (unless, of course, he’s getting you back because you slept with someone else…).  Which leads me to:

4. He thinks you’re stepping out

Pretty self explanatory.  In far greater numbers than women — men don’t play the “victim” well.  If we’re sitting at home and think we’re getting cheated on — we’ll have to go f*ck someone…

JUST. IN. CASE.

Either that or stalk you to see if you really are cheating.  Neither of these represents a very good scenario…

We know it’s childish, but you have no idea how important it is for us to be able to say, “…oh yeah?  Well I f*cked Kim” once you confess to cheating.  It’s like that blanket Linus use to carry around everywhere.  We need it…

I know there are several more reasons.  Fellas, why did you cheat?  Ladies, if you’ve been cheated on, what “reason” did he give.  Let us know in the comments and we’ll do a part 2 soon.  Until then…

Peace, Love & Monogomous Bliss (that’s not an oxymoron, right?)

J (Pres)
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Best Hunting Grounds - Weddings

Last week I wrote a post for the ladies about where to find good men.  It was generally well received and I’m glad about that.  But fellas, what about the best places to get some action?  I mean all my readers aren’t looking to settle down right now, are they?  So here is part one in a new series called “Best Hunting Grounds“.  Put simply, instead of the best place to find a good man, it’s the best place for a good man to find some action…because sometimes…that’s really all we want.  Think of this as a public service announcement:

Fellas, if you’re single, don’t EVER bring a date to a wedding.  I’ve made this mistake before when I knew less about the world.  Who knows how much sex it could have cost me?   I’d almost forgotten that weddings are still one of the best hunting grounds known to man.  Let’s check out a few reasons why:

1. You’re dapper

If you’re in the wedding you’re rocking the tux.  If you’re just attending, you’ve got the stylish suit on.  Even if there is only lent in your pockets, you look like a million bucks.  Don’t ever half-ass this.  For the guys still in college, I feel you.  But you gotta work it out.  Sell some books back, or some plasma, but get the fresh cut and drop some money on a new suit.  It will be well worth it.  Weddings are also one of the best places for you to get your cougar badge as well.  I’m just saying…

2. It’s defining

A wedding isn’t the place to bring a guy you just met or are just getting into a relationship with.  They’re sort of a big deal.  This is immensely helpful because a woman without a date is either single, with a guy who was too new to bring (and therefore can be easily forgotten for a night) or has a guy who couldn’t or didn’t go (if she’s mad at him…all the better for you).  Occasionally the girl has a good guy who just couldn’t make it, but that’s the exception…not the rule.

3. Dead giveaways

She’s up to catch the bouquet, you’re probably good.  I know, I know…everyone who isn’t married gets up to catch it.  But watch how her girlfriends act.  There’s always a single friend(s) they’re making a larger than normal fuss over.  In fact, it’s one of the few times that…

4. Women will help you sleep with their friend

There’s the bride, a few of her friends who have boyfriends and then sweet little Vanessa whose asshole boyfriend dumped her a few weeks ago. All too often, (after a few drinks) they come to the conclusion that what sweet little Vanessa needs is some dick.

And there you are, dancing with the flower girl, looking like new money.  Her friends (who are no doubt experiencing a champagne induced elation) can’t wait to hook the two of you up.  It combines all of the things they love: Alcohol, match making, guys, wedding romance, alcohol, great stories and…alcohol.  (I mean have you seen women tipsy off champagne?  It’s one of the best things the french ever gave us).  Weddings are one of the few times that girls are equally fine with finding their friend a man, or a man for the evening.

And may God bless them for it…

5. She’s probably staying at a hotel

Do I even need to write anything more here?

So you’re looking sharp.  She’s already thinking about a “union” of some sort.  Her girlfriends are tipsy and looking to help.  There’s free food, music and booze and things often end back at a hotel.  All of these things combine to make Weddings one of the best hunting grounds known to man…

Peace, Love, And What We’ve Built Here, Let No Man Put Asunder,

J (Pres)
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The “Other Woman” Checklist

We compiled a few things guys often do to their chicks on the side.  If you have any doubts about your position in his life, grab your pencil and go through the list.  As always, you can send us an email if you have any other questions or if anything needs clarification.  So without further ado…

Let’s get into it!

Have you met any of his friends?
This one can be a little misleading. For a few years I lived with my best friends. We all rented a house. You had to go through the living room to get to the master bedroom, so you eventually met all of my friends and some of their friends by default. Let me be clear. THAT DOESN’T COUNT. What does count is when you get a call like, “Me, and a few friends are going here for the weekend” or “All of us are going out to dinner and I’d like you to come”. Inviting you to interact with the friends is good – you meeting them on your way in and out of his house… is not.

Are you giving it up on the reg, or whenever he asks?
And don’t lie to yourself and think things like, “well I was horny too, so it worked out”. Be honest when you answer this question. Does he always call you for sex? Do you always say yes? Is there any doubt as to whether you are his official girl? Tough questions but answering them will give you plenty of insight.

Do dates or gifts only precede attempts to get you naked?
Does every date end up back at your place or his? Then there’s a reason for every date. That sounded harsh, but it’s true. If you’re not my girl, but I know you’ll be my girl for the night after dinner and a movie…well then that makes things easy. I know that not every man is exactly the same, but here is something we can all do. Simple addition. If dinner + movie = commitment free sex – we’ll be doing our homework often.

Do you text more than you talk?
Tell tale. Another harsh reality and ladies I’m POSITIVE you experience this one as well. Sometimes you’re pretty, great in bed and BORING/ANNOYING on the phone. We don’t mind being seen with you and LOVE pulling your panties off with our teeth – if we could just install a mute button on you, you’d be perfect. So what’s the compromise? TEXTING! I’ll keep this real simple. I’ve never truly wanted to be with a girl, I didn’t want to talk to. Sure guys get tired of talking on the phone quicker than the ladies…but texting should always be less than the talking.

Do you always have to leave a missed call or voicemail for a call back (i.e. he never picks up when you call)?
He’s with another girl. Were you expecting more explanation here? Sorry… There is none.

Blockbuster nights or he cooks…
Anything to stay in. I’ve seen the cooking bit executed to perfection. The girl was thinking that it was sooooo romantic that he loved to cook for her. In actuality he just didn’t want to take her out. He was a chef at a restaurant downtown. As anyone in that profession will tell you – you become friends with the bartenders and waiters at your place and then you become friends with the bartenders, waiters and chefs at surrounding places. If you begin sleeping with one, you’re whole network soon finds out. This makes bringing new chicks to any restaurant in damn near your whole city a little tricky… So he cooked for his ladies on the side at home and they all LOVED it. It was pretty brilliant actually. Here’s the moral, ladies. If you aren’t seen with him, you’re probably not with him…

No title
Baby, things are great the way they are. Why do we have to go putting a title on it? One of my favorites. I used this one to DEATH…and I’m still astounded by the success rate. Here’s the dirty little secret. I used this on EVERY girl I knew I was NEVER going to get serious with but REALLY wanted to continue sleeping with. I’m sure that was just me though…

Peace, Love & A Delicious Home-cooked Meal,

J (Pres)
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Chivalry And Why I Don’t Open Your Car Door

People nowadays often ponder whether chivalry is still alive; whether it’s even necessary?

Our first date: I open the car door for you.

Coming out of Target together six months later? Probably not…

So the question was asked of me: Why did you do it in the first place? Why did you open that passenger-side car door for her to begin with? Because you were trying to score? Because mom and dad said it was the right thing to do?

Ironically enough it took me a while to realize the answer. It’s such a common and habitual gesture that I never really thought about the “why”.

So here’s my “why”.

It’s not so much that my mother told me to do it – it’s more because she told me it’s what “good men” do. I grew up watching many men reinforce that statement, the most important of them being my father. So that’s why the door is opened on first dates and beyond. Because I try to be a good man and if I’m interested in you, I’d like for you to see me as such.

You know what else Pops is big on? Team! It’s why he NEVER paid me for chores or babysitting my little sister. Sure he’d give me money when I asked for it – but he always made sure to keep the two separate. His philosophy is that we’re a family and everyone does their part. I’d get speeches like:

I work hard every day. When I come home I don’t expect you to thank me because there’s food in the refrigerator and all of the lights come on when you flip the switch. You know why? Because I’m Dad – that’s my part. Your mother works and comes home and cooks and makes a great home for you and your sister. Tonight I’m taking her out to show my appreciation. You’re going to stay here and watch your sister. That’s YOUR PART. When she goes to the grocery store to buy the food that your greedy ass eats the bulk of—yes you carry ALL OF THE BAGS. That’s YOUR PART. I don’t ask you to chip in on the electric bill or the food bill…I ask you to do your part. I’m not paying you for that!

And he wouldn’t…

Here’s my point: I’m probably not always going to think of you as my lady on a pedestal. There are times when I’m going to think of you as my teammate. My partner. My best friend. Because you are also all of those things. So when we’re coming out of Home Depot with some paint for your new apartment – we’re a team. When we’re grabbing some last minute groceries before we have people over – we’re a team. If we’re pushing one of those big ass carts out of Ikea for our new place – we’re a team. So I don’t go into the whole chivalrous gentleman thing at that time because I’m seeing you in a slightly different way at the moment.

But I’m still your man, and you’ll never lose your pedestal. You’ll always be wined (figure of speech, I know you don’t like it) and dined; vacationed, treated and pampered as often as I can provide it…and more. Because that’s my part…

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Where Do You Meet Decent Guys!?!?

An age old question FINALLY gets an answer that’s not CLICHE!

Before I dive in though, I must ask: because this question was asked of me, does it mean that I am a decent guy and would thus know where they are? I’ll make an affirmative assumption regarding that presumption and say “thank you”! (Sorry, I watched “V For Vendetta” again recently)

Let’s get into it!

Ladies not only am I going to tell you what to do to increase your chances of finding a decent guy — but if fate is not on your side and you don’t find him in the place I recommend — I GUARANTEE, your consolation prize will be amazing!

And did I mention that my answer is not a cliche?!

Oh yeah, this will be a good one — strap in people. Let’s Go!!! (c) Diddy

Drum Roll Please! The place you should immediately begin looking for a decent guy is….

I DON’T KNOW.

But the good news is: YOU DO!

Ok, enough with the playing here’s your breakdown on what to do if you want to increase your chances of running into a decent guy.

First. Stop Looking.  And I don’t mean that fairy tale nonsense about how “you’ll find love as soon as you stop looking for it”. I mean really

STOP LOOKING.

Instead, look in the mirror. Look at your life. Think about what you still want to do with it. Anything and I mean ANYTHING you still want to do with it. Anything you still want to learn from it. And then begin mapping out how to do it.

Gardening, Cooking, Web Design, Softball, A Marathon or Tri-Athlon, Yoga, Tai Chi, Be a Big Sisters, Coach a kids league, Volunteer at a Women’s Shelter, Take an Investment or Savings Seminar.

Something that YOU want to do to enrich YOU!  I know we’re in a recession, but there are still A LOT of ways to cheaply learn, give and better yourself; starting with classes/seminars at your local library, cheap classes at your community college and I know for a fact that any of the clubs and organizations I mentioned above would LOVE to have you.

Here’s the point. This is VERY simple math.   Meeting people is a numbers game.  The ONLY way to encounter a greater number of decent guys is to encounter a greater number of people! But if you encounter people who are giving, volunteering, engaging, learning, caring, and chasing a dream — even if it’s just learning how to cook the dish they usually buy at a restaurant — your chances of running across someone decent are EXPONENTIALLY greater.

You’re first thought may be, “c’mon J, how many guys am I meeting at Big Sisters of America?”.  But to that I would say: you’re thinking about it wrong. Think about every person that brought one IOTA of good to your life.  Now matter how small a deed it was.  How often was that a RANDOM encounter — a CHANCE happening? How many times have you met someone and thought “what are the odds” or “small world”. Using the Big Sister’s example — let’s say you befriend just ONE person there. That’s a night at the movies hanging out with a friend you may have otherwise spent at home. It’s her favorite bar/restaurant that you’ve never been to. It’s a wedding, charity or sporting event you never would’ve attended.  Now add all of those people up!

More importantly though, this is all a bi-product of steps you were taking to BETTER YOURSELF! And surrounding yourself with people who want to do the same is a great start. It lets you know you have at least ONE decent thing in common and that’s not a bad place to begin.

That’s my theory on this. There is no magic bar or club that you haven’t been to. Get out and do something positive for YOU and you’ll run into more people with a positive mindset. A positive mindset doesn’t always translate into a “decent guy”, but look at it this way. The worst case scenario is a better you.

But if none of this is anything you want to do, then it may be time to ask yourself a tough question.

How “deserving” of a decent guy is a woman who has no interest in bettering herself…

Peace, Love & A Better You,

J (Pres)
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Ask A Guy - Is He Just Not That Into Me?

Hope everyone had a good weekend. Today we get right back to it with a reader letter!

I met this guy in late February and we’ve been talking ever since then. I really like him and I want to say that he feels the same way about me because of the seemingly sincere intimate moments we shared together (no sex). We are college students so we were able to see each other and spend time together but now that we are on summer break we only communicate through text messaging (I prefer to talk over the phone but I don’t want to invade his comfort).

For me, texting is ineffective; we never get anywhere. When I try deepen the conversations he dismiss my feelings as a lie; he’ll reply back “stop it” or “i don’t believe you” and I would reply back “stop what” or “why” and he won’t reply back to me on that day. Then a week or two ago I asked him if he missed me and he said no (I took it as a joke because in my head I’m thinking that if he didn’t miss me then he wouldn’t stay in contact with me). I asked him why and he said because I don’t miss him and I said how do you know that, you never asked me. So he asked me and I said yes and he said how much and I said a whole bunch and I didn’t hear from him until like a week later.

I’ve never had to deal with a difficult guy because they were so open to me but he is so complex and complicated; I like him but feelings fade and I am beginning to let go. The only reason I am still holding on is because I reminisce over the times we shared. I want to believe that he likes me and maybe i embarrass him when i try to make our conversations more personal? He text me “hey” the other night and in my head i’m thinking wow this dude is really funny. When we were texting I tried to get him to realize that I was not thrilled with him but he just doesn’t get it. Is he really clueless? Or simply, he’s just not that into me? Should i let my feelings for him fade?

–Fading Fast

First off, thanks for coming by the site and trusting us with your question. I’m sorry this post wasn’t up earlier–I got the flu this weekend and it’s kickin my ass! But I’m hopped up on DayQuil now, so let’s go!!

The most disturbing thing about this letter is that when you told him you missed him a lot, he got ghost for like a week…

Not good.

College definitely creates these dual personalities within a lot of people. You’re one way with your “college friends” and another way when you are back home for the summer. It sounds like this is what is going on with your guy friend. He was really sincere when he was with you on campus but now seems very different. My guess is, there may be another girl back in his hometown. If he spends as much time with her in the summer as he did with you on campus, it would explain why he never calls and barely texts… he’s with her.

Nothing takes your mind off one woman quite like another woman.

Relationships won’t get taken to the next level via texting. So text him and ask him when he has time for a call. Call him at that time and let him know exactly how you feel and what you’re looking for. His answer/reaction to this should tell you everything you want to know. If he doesn’t have time to take the call, then that will let you know plenty as well.

Good luck and please let me know if I’m wrong about the other chick. I hope that I am…

Peace, Love & The Next Level,

J (Pres)
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Friday Poll - Sex Tapes?

Most times in popular culture famous people or “trend setters” are the first to do something and the masses take notice and imitate.  However, there are also times when the masses are doing something first and stars are merely reflecting what’s already going on.

Case and point: sex tapes.

Paris, Pamela, Rihanna, Hoopz — none of these folks was the first to make an amateur sex tape — they’re just the latest and most famous to experience leaks.  So since it’s nothing new, I feel like most of our readers have already ventured down this avenue already.  You can just consider this poll…confirmation.  Let’s get into!

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